The 20 best sex board games

Sex board games are far more than just a joke gift; the really good ones can rock your world. Which is why we've relied on a world-renowned sex and relationship expert to help us find the best sex board games on the market.

Sexologist Ness Cooper has helped many couples spice up their love lives by recommending board games, dice, and card games to bring the unexpected back into the bedroom. This guide features her top sex board games, carefully selected from personal experiences, as well as some suggestions from the Wargamer team.

If you'd rather connect with your partner over the tabletop than the mattress-top, do check out our other guide to board games for couples. Plus, for top quality games without an X rating, check out our ultimate guides to the best board games and the best card games available.

The best sex board games are:

1. Monogamy

I first encountered Monogamy: the board game over ten years ago. Since then, many other sex board games have come and gone, yet this one has survived the test of time and is still being sold. It's designed for two players and is aimed at heterosexual couples, but most of the cards and tasks can be adapted for any sexual orientation.

Produced by specialist sex and relationships game publisher Creative Conceptions, Monogamy is one of the longer sex board games out there. The aim of the game is to try new forms of foreplay while also learning to communicate intimacy with your partner.

As you travel around the board, you'll land on various spaces that indicate different actions. Some may suggest giving your partner a massage, while others may allocate a time for you to perform a strip tease. The further you get into the game, the hotter it becomes, with each turn round the board making the erotic suggestions steamier.

It's a pleasurable play, but some actions require extra props, such as tie and tease items and (naturally) food. Take my advice: grab some whipped cream before you play and put the cheese puffs down!

2. Kinky Confessions card game

When it comes to kink, knowing where to start with a partner can feel like unknown territory. The Lovehoney Oh! Confessions card game is designed to help with this.

This easy card game has you and a partner take turns asking a selection of 'either/or' questions. If you decide you can't answer a question, you can select to perform a forfeit suggested on the forfeit card (or create one between yourselves).

It's designed to be played in pairs, but it could work just as well for a polycule of up to five individuals. Each person draws up to 10 cards, and you take turns asking and answering questions.

The game is fairly quick, but in my experience it's playful and lively. It helped me to gain a better understanding of my partner's erotic likes and dislikes, and we got a kick out of exploring shared sex memories from our past. The deck is great for working out power dynamics and boundaries in your relationship, whilst keeping things sexy and casual.

3. Lovehoney Foreplay Sex Dice

Let's get real; when life gets busy, foreplay gets forgotten - but it needn't be! The Oh! Foreplay Sex Dice will help you to explore foreplay more.

Rolling the purple action die, together with either the light pink romantic die or the dark pink erotic die, helps you come up with a wide range of ways to explore foreplay with a partner. Take it in turns to roll two of the dice, and perform the combination of tasks on your lover.

I found the combinations fun to explore. The dice roll and settle nicely on uneven surfaces, meaning they can be used on bedding. Some of the combinations require a little creative thinking - like "suck" + "stomach" - and for others we ended up using our own interpretations. "Blow" + "penis" was a particularly memorable combo.

The "?" side of the dice let our imaginations kick in more, allowing us to 'choose our own adventure' a little bit. These dice are good fun and can be used progressively - starting off with the romantic dice and then moving up to the erotic dice - which is a great option if you're new to learning what you and your partner like in the bedroom.

The biggest downsides are only that the purple die can be hard to read, and some of the actions are quite similar to one another.

4. Kinky or Vanilla

Kinky or Vanilla is a game of discovery. Both players place a colored pawn on the central space of the board, and take it in turn to answer questions or perform cheeky challenges. How you answer and respond to the challenges will determine which you their pawn moves, and the game ends when you make it to the kinky or the vanilla space.

Ultimately, it's a Buzzfeed personality quiz test, blown up to take place across a board. You might discover a lot about your partner, or yourself, before either of you make it to the finish!

You may not find much replay value here. But the first couple of journeys with your partner will be eye opening and entertaining - and there's something undeniably fun about watching your pawn's drunken path towards the Kinky destination spot.

5. The Big Oh!

A proper board game, The Big Oh! sees you spiral down a pathway of exciting foreplay and intimacy-building activities. Three successive levels of intensity allow you to build up arousal and desire over time, using cleverly paced game design to get you and your partner progressively more hot and bothered during an hour of play.

As you land on the different squares, you'll either take a card with sexy questions or tasks related to your current level, or explore each other's bodies with the sex dice, blindfold, or tickler. Level one allows for light foreplay and sensual massages; level two has soft genital stimulation and mild kink; and level three is more focused on mutual masturbation and oral sex. There are also bonus cards for use after the game ends.

I liked how this game slowed me and my partner down and allowed us to revisit ways of pleasuring each other we had forgotten. It proved that things between us had gotten hotter, and we were able to add our own flare to the milder actions, reigniting playfulness. We still need to find where we put some of the bonus card packs, as one pack was lost in all the excitement.

6. Oral Fun

Oral sex is rising in popularity, particularly as we're starting to see more people of different genders and sexualities enjoying it in movies and TV. Yet, even with oral sex becoming more normalized, there's still very little advice out there on how to mix it up. This is where the Oral Fun board game can help!

The game involves rolling a dice to move along a board of oral delights. You race to the finish line, which is on square 69 (incorporate that into your gameplay however you want).

Each square offers a new idea on how to explore oral sex, from kissing an area of your partner, to introducing food, to adding in tie-and-tease play as you go down on each other. There's also a set of trivia cards included, giving an extra opportunity to get to know your partner's erotic tastes further.

The game requires you to have some items on hand, such as a blindfold, food, and ice cubes. The biggest downfall of the game is that it's evidently aimed at heterosexual couples - but this could be adapted easily for anyone to take part and play.

7. Talk Dirty Playing Cards

Sex is all about exciting all the senses. That means experiencing delight through touch, taste, smell, visuals, and - of course - sound. Yet freely communicating and making sounds during sex can be the hardest skill to develop with a partner.

Even if you've had years of keeping hush in the bedroom, the Talk Dirty Playing Cards can help you become vocal - whether that's helping you talk about your sexual likes and dislikes, or giving yourself permission to let go and groan. The card game comes with additional tips on how to talk dirty.

The deck is based on traditional playing cards, creating a few ways play. The first has the goal of collecting a set of four of the same-number cards. Once a player has a set, you can act out the dirty talk questions. The second way to play is similar to Blackjack rules, which allows for a longer game.

The game is light and entertaining to play, and I enjoyed the varied interactions it encouraged between me and my partner. We even saved a few cards to use later in the week to continue the fun!

8. Sexopoly

Everyone's heard of the classic board game Monopoly. This X-rated version, Sexopoly, shares many of the same gameplay elements, but it swaps the theme from property development to adult entertainment, creating a light-hearted sex board game that's more about sharing and having fun than directly instigating sex.

Sexopoly is designed to be played with up to eight players, with the aim of the game being to build the most successful adult empire. As you work your way around the Monopoly-style board, you'll buy up adult entertainment businesses with 'Bank of Sexopoly' dollar notes and start raking in the cash from your XXX empire.

This adult game is different from other sex board games, as it's not intended to enhance your sex life. Rather, it gives you a chance to share your sex knowledge, learn some fun sex education facts, and get competitive with close friends or partners at an adult party.

There's even a 'Jail' space equivalent, which the designers aptly renamed the dungeon. There are a few slightly erotic task squares, but these are focused on receiving an optional free massage or giving a lap dance. This is one to play with a sex-positive group of friends or party guests rather than in a dedicated sex session with a partner.

9. Sex Marks The Spot

At a glance, this grid-style game looks similar to classics like Chess or Battleships. You will indeed be moving your piece across the board, but victory in Sex Marks the Spot looks a little different. At the start of the game, each player secretly writes down their ultimate fantasy on a piece of paper, and that becomes their prize if they win.

Each turn, you'll roll two numbered dice - one red, one blue - to determine a random space on the grid to move to. Each square has a different action for you and your partner to explore, with some linking to specific cards that take you, er, deeper.

The cards can vary from erotic suggestions to intimate questions. With up to 180 different challenges to try, the game can continue for hours if you desire.

Each time you land on the X square, you make a mark on your secret sheet - and, once you've collected six, you unlock your final fantasy. This element of randomness works fantastically. Anticipation builds as players race to get six Xs, but all the while you'll be exploring the game's other sexy tasks, getting more and more in the mood.

There's a welcome element of customization here, too - there are 'Sex it up' cards to add in if you want to make things steamier, or you can use a 'Sexcuse me' card if there's a challenge you'd prefer to skip.

10. Fucking Hard Fitness

There are thousands of sets of Kama Sutra cards on the market, so they have to do something different really stand out. For Fucking Hard Fitness, that comes from cardio!

The sex positions are illustrated with bright and bold cartoon characters, and each card tells you how intense the position is, and how many calories you'll burn if you can keep it up for the full suggested time period. Even if you're not a gym bunny, it's helpful extra information that will let you judge if a position is going to warm you up or wear you out.

If you love to make love and go to the gym, you can count your sex sessions as part of your cardio routine. If you love to make love and hate going to the gym, this is a way to work on your health while you and your partner work on each other!

Unfortunately, these cards don't feature any written instructions, so you may find yourself wondering how you're supposed to adopt some of the more elaborate positions. The inclusion of calorie information may also be a problem for people who have experienced disordered eating.

11. Sex!!!

A real treasure, Sex!!! is one of the very few successful sex board games that's specifically intended for groups looking to up their foreplay. Couples, throuples, or polycules - everyone can get involved in this one.

You spin the wheel to work out which color square to move to and then perform the action with your lovers. The actions range from massage or removing a piece of clothing, to kissing and dirty talk, to fingering and oral - with the aim always to keep building up more and more foreplay among the group.

At the end of the game, the winner can spin the wheel again, which will land on a suggested sex position. If you're playing with more than one partner, you can either all stop then and there and enjoy sex together, or you can go off in pairs, leaving the other pair to continue until one of them finishes the game.

In Sex!!!, everyone's a winner, and - refreshingly - most of the actions are universal and can be played by various sexualities. That's a real selling point in a field containing many, many overly heteronormative products.

12. Tower of Pleasure

Tower of Pleasure is a very grand name for a Jenga tower with sexy dares written onto all the blocks - but what a fantastic idea! Jenga is already a game of concentration, rising tension, skilful use of your hands, and an explosive finish -  Tower of Pleasure goes one step further by turning every block you pull into foreplay.

There are three colors of block, which have different levels of dare on them, from mild green warm-ups to explicit purple foreplay. There are points to be won depending on the color of the blocks you pull, with the winner when the tower topples getting a bigger say over what happens next - though you could easily swap this rule and give whoever tips the tower a penalty. And if you tend to stick to one kind of dare (be that mild or red hot), you'll be forced to dip into the other colors to prevent the tower from toppling.

As for negatives, some of the green dares encourage you to drink. Liquid courage (in moderation) is a fair enough way to lose your inhibitions, but it does make the game unsuitable for tea-totallers. And you could always create your own custom version of the game using a Jenga tower and a magic marker!

13. Weekend in Bed bondage game

It's fair to say more value went into the equipment than the game here, but the Weekend in Bed Bondage kit still has some excellent play in it. Plus, it certainly makes traveling away for the weekend more adventurous!

Perfect for those looking to try out BDSM for the first time, the kit contains eight items that all fit into a satin travel bag, including a blindfold, massage candle, spanking paddle, and flogger. All of these are designed to be used with the sex dice and packs of erotic sex cards that make up the game.

There are two card packs: one giving kinky scenes for you to act out in the form of roleplay, and the other offering sexy activity ideas. You use the dice to pick who'll play what role, and who performs the action on the card. It's worth noting the dice have a 'his' or 'her' on each side, meaning this game is intended for heterosexual couples.

The tabletop gameplay may be a bit basic, but this kit is a great investment for those looking to explore their power dynamics in the bedroom while learning different ways to mix up sensual and consensual sadomasochism. It's an affordable little package, with some amazing suggestions for enhancing your sex life.

14. Fondle

Fondle is like an adult version of Twister that knows exactly why you're playing it. This is a game about touching, groping, and stroking all the other players, because oh no the spinner said you have to!

Just like Twister, someone on the sidelines will spin a big spinner to determine what the other players do with their hands and feet. Sometimes you'll have to stretch your hands and feet out to the other side of the mat, but just as often you'll have to put your hands onto another player - there's even 'fondle' wildcard result, which gives the current player a forfeit.

This doesn't fix all the problems with adult Twister, of course. Everyone has to be happy being groped by all the other players, and the spinner could throw up boring results several times in a row. This also isn't a great game if you're getting back pain. But, if you were thinking of bringing Twister to a sexy party, bring Fondle instead.

15. Truth or Dare for Couples

No longer is this merely a game for teens experiencing their first romantic tension: Truth or Dare for couples adapts the party classic into a mildly steamy and consistently fun conversation game for two.

Emphasis on "mildly" steamy, mind you. You'll find many couples praising Truth or Dare For Couples for its interesting 'truths' and funny 'dares' in the Amazon reviews, but we found a distinct lack of sex-appeal going on in this game.

If you're after a night of laughs with your love, this may be the game for you; if you were hoping for something more in the style of strip poker, you might want to carry on with the guide. Or try some of our tried and tested spicy truth or dare questions to get you started instead!

16. Bedroom Battle

Bedroom Battle could be the most board-game-like board game on this list. It doesn't rip off a classic - this isn't Monopoly Sex Edition - so it has its own rules, board, and pieces. Luckily for those of you who want to get down to business quickly, though, playing a game of bedroom battle is as simple as it is sexy.

The game is designed for two players. At the start of a round, players draw a reward card with three intimate actions listed. You and your opponent then take it in turns to play cards, with the goal of ending the round with the highest 'sexiness' rating. The winner gets to pick an action from the reward card, and the loser performs it. Simple!

Unlike some of the other games on this list, Bedroom Battle boasts about its inclusivity as well as its sex positivity. "It doesn't matter if you're straight, gay, or lesbian", says the game's box, "everyone can play". Bedroom Battle even has expansion packs - just in case you wore out the first deck of cards.

17. Consentacle

Consentacle is a card game with an out-there premise: you and your partner are trying to help a human and an alien who don't share a language get down and dirty. That sounds wacky, but it's actually a set-up for a game that's all about trust, consent, and silent communication.

This is quite a 'gamey' game. The different actions you take either build trust between both characters, or spend trust to satisfy your character - but you aren't allowed to talk about what you're planning to do with the other player! You'll find out at the end of the game how well you did - is one of the characters satisfied, but the other unfulfilled? Was it a wash for both of them? Or did they make sparks fly?

Consentacle will get you thinking rather than thirsting, but each gorgeously illustrated card can be the start of a conversation about your own likes and dislikes. And the best way to ensure you both win the game is to get in sync with your real-life partner and all their nonverbal communication. It's very intimate.

18. The Dick Sits

If you're in the fun position of going to sex parties, you'll know that sometimes people need to relax before they can get frisky - but you don't want that warm-up activity to distract everyone from why you're really there. The Dick Sits will have everyone laughing and talking filth, ready for you to bring out one of the other games on this list and really get the fun started.

It's a simple and very, very silly game. Each player takes on the role of a hungry butt, eager to sit on as many dicks as possible and stretch as wide as they can. There's a whole card pack of peckers, each illustrated with a cute cartoon penis that is sure to raise a laugh - particularly if you spot any resemblances…

19. Our Sex Game

Our Sex Board Game is a great gateway for lovers who are new to using props in the bedroom. A game begins with each player writing down their secret, ultimate sex fantasy. After that, players take turns revealing intimate prompts and challenges.

It's a race to the finish where the winner gets to act on their ultimate fantasy, but there's no need to rush. Our Sex Board Game is filled with enjoyable suggestions, starting at 'seductive' and ramping up to 'x-rated'.

Our Sex Board Game does involve plenty of props, and it can suggest some fresh ideas to a couple keen to spice things up. However, it feels very geared towards less kinky players, who might find its cards a bit vanilla.

20. Nightshift

Nightshift is so hot off the presses that it's actually quite rare to see on sale these days. We've recommended it anyway because there isn't a sex board game quite like it out there. Designed by a former exotic dancer, it aims to educate and entertain its audience by recreating what it's like to earn your living at a strip club.

Everyone plays a dancer competing to earn the best tips of the night. A variety of customers will come through the door (many with very humorous descriptions), and it's up to you to charm them into parting with their cash - usually through a private dance or two.

As you can tell from this description, this isn't a board game to play if you're looking for help getting started in the bedroom. However, it is a must-try if you're passionate about sex work as a general topic, as it's one of very few board games to approach the industry without resorting to stereotypes.

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